proverbs – calling c.p

If Proverbs 1 introduces wisdom and Proverbs 5 warns you about drifting, Proverbs 2 answers a deeper question:

How do you actually become wise?

We’re still in the Book of Proverbs, traditionally associated with Solomon. And this chapter reads like a roadmap. It’s structured almost like an equation:

If you seek wisdom → then you will find it → and it will protect you.

It’s practical. Motivating. And honestly? Very grown-woman coded.

1. Wisdom Requires Effort (Verses 1–4)

The chapter opens with a series of “if” statements:

If you accept my words.
If you store up commands.
If you call out for insight.
If you search for it like silver.

That last line is key.

We say we want wisdom. But do we pursue it like treasure?

Proverbs 2 makes it clear: wisdom isn’t accidental. It’s intentional.

It’s choosing:

Reflection over reaction
Study over scrolling
Prayer over panic
Listening over impulsively speaking

It’s active, not passive.

2. Wisdom Comes From God (Verses 5–8)

After all that seeking, here’s the grounding truth:

“The Lord gives wisdom.”

It’s not just self-help. It’s not just experience. Real discernment is a gift.

This connects beautifully to Book of James 1:5: “If any of you lacks wisdom, ask God…”

There’s humility in that. You don’t manufacture clarity. You receive it.

And Proverbs 2 promises something comforting:

God stores up wisdom for the upright.
He is a shield.
He guards your path.

At this stage of life, that matters. Because you realize how many decisions actually shape your future.

3. Wisdom Protects You From Bad Paths (Verses 9–15)

Once wisdom enters your heart, something shifts.

You start to:

Recognize manipulation faster
Notice red flags sooner
Feel unsettled by what used to feel normal

The chapter talks about being delivered from “perverse speech” and crooked paths.

In real life, that might look like:

Not being pulled into gossip
Not being seduced by shady business shortcuts
Not normalizing dysfunction

Wisdom sharpens your instincts.

And the older you get, the more you value discernment over excitement.

4. Wisdom Also Protects Your Relationships (Verses 16–19)

This section overlaps thematically with Proverbs 5, warning against the “forbidden woman,” which represents relational unfaithfulness and destructive intimacy.

But zoom out: it’s about avoiding connections that slowly erode your integrity.

Not every opportunity is aligned.
Not every connection is safe.
Not every spark is sacred.

Wisdom helps you see beyond chemistry into consequence.

5. Your Direction Matters (Verses 20–22)

The chapter ends with a contrast:

The upright remain.
The wicked are cut off.

That language sounds intense, but the message is simple:

Your path has a destination.

Proverbs 2 is obsessed with trajectory.

Where is this choice leading?
Where is this habit taking you?
Who are you becoming?

It’s less about one moment and more about momentum.

What Proverbs 2 Feels Like in Real Life

Reading this chapter as an adult feels grounding.

It reminds you that:

Wisdom doesn’t just inform you, it forms you.
Discernment is protective, not restrictive.
God is invested in your direction.

If Proverbs 1 says wisdom is foundational, Proverbs 2 says wisdom is worth pursuing with everything you’ve got.

Not casually.
Not occasionally.
But intentionally.

Because the woman who seeks wisdom like treasure?

She’s rarely easily shaken.

Embracing Femininity

Singleness is a gift. It’s a time for cultivating wholehearted devotion to Jesus, a time for growing in faith and contentment. A time for self control, for seeking and building the Kingdom of God. Singleness was meant to be lived in relationship with Jesus, and it is this relationship that brings beauty, joy, and purpose. It is this relationship that brings abundant life.

We hear so much about the Proverbs 31 woman but what does that really mean? The purpose of Proverbs is to implement wisdom, discipline and understanding. It was written by Solomon who had a history of lustful behavior. It was written to his sons and the men of Israel to seek Godly wisdom. In Proverbs 31 he highlights the importance of the perfect, Godly woman. When reading it as a woman we can often interpret it to God speaking to us, his children, as he asks us to seek the true wisdom within each of us and pursue a pure life.

History and Overview of Proverbs:

Title and Author: The book of Proverbs is traditionally attributed to King Solomon, renowned for his wisdom. The title “Proverbs” comes from the Hebrew word “Mashal,” meaning “parables” or “sayings.” Solomon is credited with writing the majority of the proverbs, although other contributors include Agur (Proverbs 30) and King Lemuel (Proverbs 31).

Historical Context: Proverbs was written during the reign of Solomon, around the 10th century BC, a period marked by peace and prosperity in Israel. This era allowed for the flourishing of wisdom literature, as the nation was not preoccupied with warfare or survival.

Audience: The primary audience of Proverbs was the people of Israel, particularly young men who were being molded for leadership and responsibility. However, its teachings are universal and timeless, applicable to all who seek wisdom.

Purpose: The purpose of Proverbs is to impart wisdom, discipline, and understanding. It aims to guide individuals in living a life that is pleasing to God, characterized by righteousness, justice, and equity (Proverbs 1:2-3).

Genre and Style: Proverbs is a collection of wisdom literature, characterized by short, pithy sayings and poetic parallelism. It uses metaphors and similes to convey deep truths.

You don’t have to be single in order to pursue or become a Proverbs 31 woman. I think it is sometimes hard when we go through life and find our soulmates and have our children to identify ourselves outside of those relationships. I do believe it’s important to do self-work and deep dive into who we are on an individual level. It’s important for us women who are often caretakers to take care of ourselves and pour into ourselves so we can furthermore pour into those that we love. “You cannot pour from an empty cup”, as they say.

Furthermore, when you feel good on the inside and develop a strong sense of self, you begin to glow with confidence, reassurance and a type of strength that cannot be dimmed or lessened. This can attract truly wonderful things in life whether it’s a new job, opportunity or partner. Your path becomes clearer and the possibilities of what you can accomplish are endless.

What verses or statements stand out most between the two pictures?
What are some of your strengths in life? What do you think that you can work on?
Do you believe in the Law of Attraction?
What do you look for in an ideal partner? Do you see any of these traits within yourself?
Do you find that your ideal partner reflects someone God would want for you?
What is your favorite verse about love?

As you dive into your femininity, it’s important to devote time with God so that you can truly hear Him. The biggest part of your spiritual journey is setting time aside so that your goals and aspirations align with God’s goals and aspirations for you. Ladies, this even applies to dating and relationships with others. Those who are meant to be in your life will stay even after you pray about them. If you pray that God touches the hearts of those that you love and care about He will work on their hearts just as He is working on yours. The more you take God seriously the more He will work in favor of you. Think about Job and his journey with God.

Practice dating with God. Take long nature prayers walks, use arts and crafts as a form of creative worship, have devotional time in a cafe, express your love and gratitude for God throughout your day, and take a picnic with Jesus. There are so many ways you can set time aside to build your relationship with Him, single or not.

Godly Dating

The Law of Attraction suggests that positive thoughts bring positive outcomes in people’s lives. I believe that this can go a step further and say that the more you build yourself up and step into your Godly femininity the more you attract the right people in your life, this goes for not only men or partners but also friends. Your glow can even inspire those who are already in your circle to do the same.

It can be scary to date as a Christian, you want your beliefs to align with others and you don’t want to push people away by feeling like you are too much. But you should embrace being too much. Embrace being yourself. The right person is going to love and cherish you for who you are and see your value and try to feed into that and not shy away. It can be scary but it will be well worth it in the end. You will find people who will turn you away or not stay and you have to be okay with that. You have to be willing to stand on your boundaries and remain confident in your life choices. You may have to be the one to turn away and that is okay too.

Christian Dating Tips:

Pray for each other.
Pray before meals together
Have a weekly bible study date
Do bible reading plans together
1. This can be done with devotionals or through the bible app! Just set a daily reminder and chat about it! You can choose a plan that works best for you two!
Consider going on a church date.
1. This can be with your home church or theirs or even one that is completely different! After church go out for lunch and discuss the sermon and what you thought about the experience
Respect that family responsibilities and church responsibilities come before dates and relationship
Be honest and open with each other
Be encouraging and respectful
Pray together before making decisions
Talk/pray about your futures together
Love the Lord your God with all of your heart, soul and mind before you love each other
Put God first in your relationship, always.
Don’t stress too much about where to go, or what to do, just have fun.
Don’t just date to date, date to see if they are the person God wants you to spend your life with.
Praise God together, serve God together, study God together and love God together.

Which of these 15 tips stand out to you the most?

You will come across a lot of toxic people in this world, not just in the dating scene. There are safe, Godly ways to deal with certain people. First of all you want to pray for them and hand them over to God. (Matthew 10:14) Like I mentioned before, God knows people’s hearts way better than we do. You may see the potential in someone but God knows them better. Set clear boundaries. (Matthew 18: 15-17) This can mean distancing yourself physically (1 Corinthians 15:33) and letting go emotionally. (Proverbs 4:23) Give yourself time to heal spiritually, mentally and physically (Psalm 34:18) They’re called toxic for a reason. These people can wear down your soul and drain you. Give yourself time to heal from this and detect yourself healthily. Lastly, spend time with healthier relationships (Proverbs 27:17) It’s important to always embrace those in our lives that are for us and love us deeply and truly. Surround yourself with your people. The people that bring out the best in you.

If you are single and thinking about dating or dating already it’s important to pray for your future spouse. You want these prayers to reflect the person you see yourself being with. Even if you are already in a relationship or married it’s important to continue to pray for your spouse and your relationship.

How to pray for your future spouse:

That he/she will resist sexual temptations. (1 Corinthians 6:18; Ephesians 5:3-5)
That he/she will make wise choices (Galatians 5:13)
That he/she will have great knowledge of the Lord (2 Peter 3:18)
That he will have a heart for our children (Colossians 3:21; Malachi 4:6; Ephesians 6:4)
That he will be the spiritual leader of the family (1 Corinthians 11:3)
That he/she will be a hard worker. (1 Corinthians 15:38, Colossians 3:23, Proverbs 31:31)
That he/she will love me deeply. (Ephesians 5, Colossians 3:19)
That he/she will have spiritual endurance (Hebrews 12:1, Isaiah 40:31)